Communication is an art. Many parents who are fathers and mothers do not know how to communicate with their children. They often do it themselves when they are wrong.
1. After the child's diploma will be higher than you, the money earns more than you. But the child has nothing to say to you, or even go home. We say: This is a generation gap, and the child has no common language with us.
Note: However, you have not reflected, how sad it is: our hard-working children are only obligated to us, but lack of warmth!
2. The child is a little uncomfortable, we said: Baby, we go to the hospital, just do a little bit! Doctor, use some medicine!
Note: Our blindness and ignorance directly lead to the child becoming a lack of resistance to the glass, causing him to suffer more pain and medical trauma, so that the world has more resistant bacteria and incurable diseases.
3. The child wants to play mud, we say: too dirty, not allowed to play!
Note: Deprived of the child's right to play, annihilating the nature of the child's play, blocking the child's perception of things, and narrowing the child's exploration space.
4. The child wants to eat for herself. We say: Get it right, the rice is cold... Mom feeds!
Note: The child's sense of autonomy and the child's ability to do it are thus killed.
5. The child wants to wash the dishes by themselves. We said: Don't stain the clothes. The water is so ice, don't break the bowl...
Note: In the eyes of the child, it is like the labor of the game. Because of you, the happy labor has become a bitter, the muscles of the limbs are shrinking, and there is no masculinity.
6. The child went to school, we said: You have to study hard, listen to the teacher's words, don't understand, don't talk about it...
Note: Children don't dare to ask why, afraid of the teacher saying, afraid of classmates jokes; children only know to accept, follow, no creativity, not even their own opinions and thoughts.
7. The child is not good at learning. We said: Do you know how much bitterness Mom and Dad have eaten for you? You eat well, wear well, do nothing, why not even read the book, you really lost our face! I knew early...
Note: In the child's heart, they can't see love. They think that everything you have paid is just a transaction. It is just the private property of the parents. It is the tool of the parents Guangzong Yaozu.
8. The child said: Mom and Dad, I have grown up and I have to do something I can. We said: Good boy, you can read the book and do nothing for you.
Note: An opportunity to cultivate a child's sense of responsibility, the opportunity to be a top-notch male (female) child is thus extinguished in your bud, causing the child to grow into a vain person, an irresponsible person.
9. The child does not know how to think of gratitude through what way, he said to you: Mom and Dad, I love you, you have worked hard! We say: What love, what do you want to love? Reading a good book, obedience is the best love.
Note: Love is such utilitarian, realistic and cruel! The seeds of love have faded without flowering; the ability to love has not been formed and is hit.
10. The child is very good at learning, his temper is very bad, and he is surprisingly lazy. We said: Nothing, just fine, as long as you learn well, nothing does not matter.
Note: We have forgotten that one person must first be an adult to become a talent. We will go to the end and trample on the cultivation of a child's healthy personality. We could have grown up with our children. We could have been friends with children, let them be happy and make themselves happy.
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